Hello Readers,
There comes a time when enough has to be enough. A time to draw a line underneath a situation that has been dragging you down for long enough. Perhaps it’s time to take a back seat and let someone else take the load.
They say it takes all sorts to make a world and its always very interesting to discover and become aware of what lengths some people will go to put pressure on others into doing their bidding. Often the more you do to please others, the less well you are thought about and appreciated and very often, criticised and complained about even though you have tried so hard to do your best. Sometimes, whatever you do or say is just not good enough and nothing seems to please. The world is full of very ungrateful people that can be found in families, work places, amongst colleagues and certain friendships.
I have known people who have spent lots of time and money on loved ones, children, grandchildren, close relatives and friends, only to have their kindness and generosity thrown back in the faces. It seems the more they give and the more they make themselves available to help those closest to them, the worse they are treated and the more is expected of them. Often its outsiders and strangers who are treated with more respect and consideration then their own nearest and dearest. Have you noticed, the ungrateful ones would never dream of talking disrespectfully to their own friends, but think nothing of starting a slanging match with loved ones because they have one face for you and one for their public. There is a very true saying which sounds harsh, but in a lot of cases, is very true. ‘Treat them mean to keep them keen’. Very often it’s the people who do the least and show very little or no interest at all get better thought of.
Some people are extremely good at twisting stories so that the finger of blame is always pointed at you because they will accuse you of not listening properly to what they were trying to explain to you and that you somehow managed to misinterpret what they were saying.
Never make the mistake of giving away all your power by apologising for something that is not your fault, just to keep the peace. Stand your ground and refuse to be browbeaten to submission because these people are always at the top of their agenda, not you. No one else matters and nothing else is important. The conversation will always revert back to them because they are only interested in what is in it for them and when you are no longer of any use to them, they will beat a hasty retreat to find their next victim.
So if you ever find yourself in a difficult situation where you feel uncomfortable because your gut feelings are screaming out loudly to cut and run, do just that, make a point of changing your behaviour and start putting down some new, overdue boundaries, because that way you will begin reclaiming your power and succeed in sending a very strong message that you are not prepared to be treated badly ever again.
Until Next Week,
Love and Light, Linda and The Lulas xxx