Hello Readers,
How many times have you heard your friends tell you that they always look for the good in people and then break down in tears in a terribly upset state because they have been let down by someone they trusted? How many times has this happened to you also?
The scenario is typical of this. You have become ‘bessy mates’ overnight, planned outings, holidays, shopping days and told one another your deepest secrets. Your kids have played together, you have enjoyed Birthdays and Christmases, high days and holidays together and honestly believed that the person you have befriended is as genuine and upfront as you, except that they are nothing like you at all. Then the question arises, did you see the warning signs and choose to ignore your instincts and better judgement because you didn’t want to believe the truth? You wanted to believe that you were wrong and that you should not think badly of anyone and that the blame must lie with you and not with them? There is always a lot of soul searching and questioning going on when reality hits hard and the harsh truth has to be faced. However, there are always those people who go through life living in a bubble and refuse to learn valuable life lessons because they don’t like dealing with real life. They choose to sweep everything under the carpet and pretend that everything is nice and lovely, when really, it isn’t. Worse still, they dislike the truth being pointed out to them and when it is, they pretend they can’t cope and refuse to listen.
The sad thing is that there are some people who will only be there for as long as you have what they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will dump you, leave without explanation nor give your feelings an ounce of consideration. Be assured that you are not the only person they have treated badly this way because they go through their whole lives behaving in this manner and whilst you are drying your tears, they are already seducing, charming and grooming their next victims.
The good news is that if you tough it out and toughen up yourself in the process, you will eventually weed these people out of your life and gradually begin to see that you are left with some great people you can count on. Never feel sad about someone who gave up on you, because they gave up on someone who would never have given up on them. Even though its most definitely their loss and your gain, they are not programmed mentally nor emotionally to recognise this fact because they are operating and living on a completely different frequency to you. So don’t waste your time chasing them, begging and pleading with them because you are not going to get anywhere positive with this approach. Instead, keep your dignity and get on with the next chapter of your life because you can look forward to happier and better times with the right people to share your experiences with.
You will always know when you are on the right track when you finally stop looking behind you.
Until Next Week,
Love and Light,
Linda and The Lulas xxx