Friendship

Hello Readers,

Making new friends is one of the greatest things that can happen.  Each new friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive and its only through this meeting that our lives can change forever.  We don’t meet people by accident or coincidence.  They are meant to cross our paths at the exact precise time and date on the calendar.  Since there is nothing so well worth as having friends, never lose a chance to make them.  Every new friendship is the start of a brand new adventure and the beginning of creating some more wonderful memories.

New friends can often have even a better time together than old friends.  This is because during the course of our lives, we change so much.  What we thought we wanted a long time ago no longer holds any appeal for us.  We evolve, we grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually and so what we think about we attract towards us and so not everyone will keep up with us or even like the fact that we have changed so very much, especially if they are still clinging to the past and we are happily embracing the future.

Have you ever experienced spending the day with an old friend, perhaps shopping, a holiday, going on a walk and find yourself walking on egg shells, wondering what to talk about next, struggling not to cause offence or open your mouth only to put your foot straight in it?  This is what happens when we finally realise that we have ‘outgrown’ a certain friendship.  The conversations are stilted and awkwardness, silences and the atmosphere becomes draining.  In fact, you just can’t wait to say goodbye and make your exit.  Friendship isn’t always about who you have known the longest, it’s about whom you maintain a spiritual connection with.  It’s about who is happy for you and who isn’t jealous when you are doing well.  The great philosopher, Buddha says ‘An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind’.

During the course of our lives you will meet people who forget you and you will also forget certain people, but sometimes you will meet people whom you will never forget and will always see as a ‘friend’.  Remember, you will never actually lose a true friend because a true friend will not disappear out of your life by abandoning you.  If someone has done this to you, take heart, because they were never a friend in the first place.  Nobody needs a friend that changes when you change and nods when you nod.  Your shadow can do that much better.  A friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is still far better than the one who stays away and reappears when all the fuss and commotion has died down because a friendship that can end, never really began.

Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain.  It’s not something you can learn or purchase over a shop counter, but if you have not learned the meaning of friendship, you have not learned anything at all.  Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.

‘Do not save your loving speeches for friends till they are dead;

Do not write on their tombstones,

Speak to them now instead’.

Until Next Week,

Love and Light,

Linda and The Lulas xxx