Hello Readers,
You do not have to put up with anyone’s bad behaviour. Sometimes there are situations that occur where we have to take positive action to save our own sanity. I can vividly remember someone I once knew who was only happy to be a friend whilst ever they were telling me and everyone else how to live our lives and where we were going wrong etc., but the minute that anyone, including me, objected to their behaviour, they firstly ranted and raved and then disappeared back into their shell, sulking and waiting for everyone else to make the first move because they were not being told what they wanted to hear. I forgave this person the first couple of times, giving them the benefit of the doubt and putting their reactions down to their stresses, but when there was a third dramatic outburst, I drew a line under everything and took a few steps back, and then a few more. I chose not to make any further contact, but I still received greeting cards because this was their way of linking up again in the hope that I would telephone, thank them for the card and then the whole pattern would start again, and of course, they always behave as though nothing had happened and its never their fault.
You can forgive and forgive over and over again but there comes a time when you have to draw a line under a person’s bad behaviour and should not reward them for being hurtful and inconsiderate of your feelings, because that is ‘enabling’ them. If you give another person permission to keep on treating you badly, you are not doing them or yourself any favours because neither of you are learning important lessons. If someone repeatedly behaves badly, unfairly and cruelly towards you, it’s down to you to take action and put a stop to it. Yes, they should know better, but while ever they are getting away with it, they will keep on doing it. There will always be people who are jealous of you or treat you as though you are invisible, but the best thing about living through pain like that is that you will learn to grow and respect yourself more. You will learn to make better choices in the future about whom to befriend and who to ignore. Being alone is not a bad thing, in fact it’s often the best thing that could happen to you because you give yourself the time and the chance to discover who you really are and what you really want.
Never chase people. If in doubt, do nothing. What and who is meant to be in your life will be there, no matter what. Some people are destined to be in your life for its entirety and some are only meant to stay for a season, whilst others are not meant to be in your life at all. In our everyday lives it is most important that we give ourselves the best chance ever to live it happily and without the unnecessary hassle that is often caused by a few individuals who enjoy nothing more than causing unrest and trouble. Let go of the parts of your past that do nothing but bring you down and take you away from walking your walk, including people who offer no substance to the quality of life that you are seeking to live. If someone sticks by your side through the worst possible times, they deserve to be in your life during the best times. Never fret or worry if a ‘friend’ suddenly dumps you or goes out of your life without an explanation because a ‘true friend’ will never do that. The people who abandon us were never proper ‘friends’ to start with and you are much better off without them. If you are patient and give yourself time, you will discover new people gravitating towards you who are deserving of your friendship and whom you have much in common with to form a lasting and fulfilling relationship with.
There is only so far you can go before you say ‘enough is enough’, I do not want to be with you again.
Until Next Week,
Love and Light,
Linda and The Lulas xxx
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