Regrets

Hello Readers,

Are you one of those people who has vivid memories of wasted time?  Do you constantly beat yourself up about wishing you had done things differently?  Do you go on and on constantly repeating yourself telling different people the same story, looking for reassurances whilst trying to justify your decisions, actions and behaviour knowing very well that none of us can turn the clock back and that what is done is done. Things happen the way they happen because that is how they are meant to be.  Our lives are one massive learning curve.  Every day is a school day and none of us are exempt.  It’s just that some people live in denial of the truth whilst others enjoy nothing more than gloat over our so called ‘mistakes’, whereas I call every single situation that ever happens to us an ‘experience’.  We are all guilty of this at some time or other.  I have never yet met anyone who has not felt a twinge of regret over something or other, yet the real problems begin when we refuse to forgive ourselves, and others and make an effort to move forwards with our lives.  There is a good reason why you should wake up each morning and wisely consider what and who you should give your time to, because unlike other things in life such as love, money, respect, good health, time is the one thing you can never get back so stop wasting your time regretting what you did a year ago.  Start doing what you have to do now so that in a year’s time from now, you won’t regret what you have done today. 

So many people live with regrets because when they had the chance to change and make a difference, they dint.  I was chatting recently with someone who took flowers to a loved one’s grave and who told me that he dearly wished he had spent more time with that person when they were alive and now, of course, it’s too late because they died and there is nothing more to be done.  The chances to put things right had gone, never to return, yet valuable lessons can be learned and regrets avoided. 

Spend more time with people who help you love yourself more and make you smile and remember that the people you take for granted today may not be around tomorrow.  Don’t hide your thoughts and feelings, especially when you can make a difference.   Be brave and say what needs to be said.  If you care about someone, tell them because hearts are sometimes broken by the words we leave unspoken.  Never make the mistake of trying to impress the wrong people because not everyone will appreciate what you do for them.  You have to figure out who is worth your attention and who is just out to take advantage of you.  Stop comparing yourself and your progress in life with others.  We all need our own time to travel our own distance.  It’s perfectly OK to be different.  Today the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.  Prove yourself to yourself, not to others.

Not taking action on meaningful goals is doing yourself a great injustice.  Instead of complaining about your circumstances, get busy creating new ones.  Most of the time the only difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.  If you really want to do something, you will find a way and if you don’t, you will find an excuse.  Growth and change can be painful but nothing in life can be as painful as staying stuck in where you don’t belong. 

Never forget where you have been and never lose sight of where you are going.  Never ignore the people who have travelled the journey with you.  When all said and done, be sure you have not said more than you have done.  In the end, actions always speak louder than words, so work hard in silence and let success be your noise. 

Until Next Week

Love and Light,

Linda and The Lulas xxx