Sort Yourself Out First

Hello Readers,

If you have ever been on an aeroplane and actually listened to the cabin crew, you will recognise the following.

‘Fit your own oxygen mask before attempting to help others fit theirs.’

You can’t help others if you are dying, so it makes sense to sort yourself out first, otherwise you can’t do justice to those people who rely on you for support, and no one is going to do this for you. It’s on your shoulders to take personal responsibility. Once you have all your ‘ducks in a row’ then you can go about making a difference to the people whose lives you impact.

One of the best bits of advice I can give you is to take care of your health. I am quite open about a major problem I experienced two years ago when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. That experience completely changed my life and I had to make a few new rules if I was going to survive and see my family grow up. My first initial reaction was shock, but then survival instincts kicked in and from that day forward I changed my diet, my outlook, took more rest, discovered who my true friends were and cleared the decks of any rubbish that was still lingering in the corners of my world. Today, the story is completely different and I am much, much better, happier and healthier these days than ever before, but to reach this point, I had to take control of my life and make a few overdue changes.

It’s important that you talk to people if you have problems and some of the dreadful stuff you are going through and worse still, the bizarre thoughts in your head when you are experiencing a lot of stress. It’s vital that you deal with issues as they arise rather than think you can manage on your own, bottle the worries up and continually wake up feeling like death each morning.

My next piece of advice is to try to do a bit of exercise daily. Do your research and find out what you like doing most and what you think will benefit you. Even perhaps think about hiring a personal trainer for a short while just to get you on the right track. I love walking The Lulas three or four times a day and I swim regularly. If I miss doing this, I feel rubbish, so it’s back to the beginning again and I work on keeping this routine up come rain or shine. It’s about personal discipline and training your mind to work to a regime, a time table. It’s all too easy to sloth around like a couch potato watching telly all day, finding lots of things not to do, but this attitude is not going to do your health, mentally, physically or emotionally any good at all.

We are what we eat, so try to eat as much ‘real food’ as you can. Don’t beat yourself up if you have the odd pizza or cream cake from time to time, just don’t do it all the time.

My next point is to remove toxic people and places from your life. Once you do this, you will feel like a ten ton weight has been removed from your shoulders. Anyone who doesn’t like you or judges you, stuff them!! It’s their problem not yours. Just remove yourself from people who take up too much of your head space for all the wrong reasons and you will find that your work rate, happiness and bank balance will sky rocket!! You don’t even have to be rude about it or get into a confrontational fight with people, just put a healthy distance between you and whoever is sapping your energy and you will soon notice a difference. If they are still causing you a problem, block them from your life on every communication channel. They may moan and groan for a while, but they will soon get the message and find someone else to dump their complaints on.

Your time is precious. Be a little bit more selfish with it and selective with whom you associate with. Never let people steal from you what cannot be brought back. It’s the same with places,
where you end up doing things you regret, or simply shouldn’t do. Just don’t go there. Willpower is not always easy, so make a promise to yourself not to put yourself in a position ever again in situations that make you feel bad afterwards. The more you distance yourself from negativity, the more space it leaves for positive people to flow into your life.

Make yourself a promise that from now on you make ‘yourself’ a priority, not an option, last resort or back up plan. Start by putting down boundaries, stand firm and just watch how others begin to view you in a different light.

Until Next Week

Love and Light,

Linda and The Lulas xxx