Toxic People

Hello Readers,

How many of you have experienced the shock of discovering that a so called friend is no friend at all, in fact probably your worst enemy?

Most us have experienced our fair share of toxic relationships over the years and endured the company of people who have been no good for us, yet we still entertained them, very often going against our gut feelings.  Sometimes it’s a feeling of obligation, a promise made, to look after someone in case disaster strikes or they are left sitting home alone all by themselves and out of the goodness of your heart, you try to make life more bearable for them, just one of the many reasons you may have found yourself in such a position.

But then, sometimes things do not go to plan and you are the one is gets kicked in the teeth all because you showed kindness and consideration.  These relationships are the most draining, debilitating and unhealthy.  They are always very one sided and leave you feeling as though you are doing all of the giving, which in fact is true, because that is exactly what has been happening, at often at a very high cost to you both emotionally and financially.  If you are not careful, these situations whether romantic or friendship can wither you away into someone you no longer recognise because your confidence and self-esteem is under attack and you actually find yourself questioning your own sanity.

I would say that in just about every case, the root cause of someone’s nasty behaviour towards you is based on their jealousy of you, your lifestyle, your personality and just about everything about you.  The people who behave so badly are usually so unhappy with their own lives because of the choices they have made, re: their work, the financial debts they have found themselves drowning in or really toxic personal relationships they have with their families, friends and partners, that they think nothing of lashing out and saying spiteful things because they think life owes them a living.  If you just take a few minutes to think about it, you may notice that they have probably quarrelled with just about everybody and its always someone else’s fault and so now it’s your turn to receive bad treatment.  If you put up with being treated shoddily, it will continue because you are giving the other person permission to carry on this way.  My only advice is to disconnect immediately, do not take their calls, answer their correspondence or get into dialogue because conversations nearly always end up spiralling out of control with things said in haste. Remove yourself from anything that is toxic because it brings on stress and stress is the cause of all kinds of health problems.  Leopards never change their spots.  You can dress them up in ribbons, frills and bows, but underneath, they are still leopards.  People always show their true colours eventually, it’s just a matter of time.

When you decide to become your own best friend, life becomes easier.  Do not ever feel bad for making positive choices and decisions about improving your own life that upset other people.  You are not responsible for their happiness and anyone who wants you to live a life of misery just to please them should not be in your life to begin with.

We are all responsible for our choices and in the end, we all sit down to a feast of consequences.

Until Next Week,

Love and Light,

Linda and The Lulas xxxx