Who Are You Trying To Impress? Better Still, Why?

Hello Readers,

Trying to impress other people is possibly the biggest insult you can hurl at yourself because your efforts will be to no avail. Why is their opinion so important, and when do they take your advice seriously, or even value your interest in them? It’s time to open your eyes to reality before it’s too late.

As braggers and show-offs have based their confidence on giving a good sales pitch, sounding convincing whilst impressing their audience, it is only a matter of time before they show signs of self-doubt, nervousness and agitation, always looking for reassurances and compliments. Restlessness overcomes them as they can’t settle, always chasing things beyond their reach, causing problems whilst making huge errors of judgement. Always remember that actions speak louder than words, so don’t believe everything you see or hear. A person’s choice of words will often reveal the length and depth of their vocabulary, knowledge or ignorance. Once they start talking, they reveal important aspects of their character and intentions. Some people constantly big themselves up about their relationships or lifestyle in an attempt to convince themselves, as well as others, that everything in their world is perfect and fantastic, when realistically, the exact opposite is true. They tend to post their lives in pictures on social media hoping to look and sound convincing. In truth, even they are not sure about some of their decisions, so they carry on winging it until all the wheels drop of their little fantasies.

Working long after hours is an illusion and ridiculous way to prove your value. It’s doubtful that you will be appreciated for your dedication or martyrdom, instead, taken for granted overlooked and used until one day you are forgotten. Only fools and horses work for nothing. Don’t be a pepper in the eyes of people, instead, choose to be the salt on their tongue that hopefully helps to make a positive difference to the quality of their lives. It’s most doubtful that you will get anything worth having from the people you work so hard to satisfy, but you can certainly make those closest to you happy when you are in a good mental and emotional place yourself. Put more effort into improving the quality of your own life realising that charity begins at home.

The more you try to impress, the more you become depressed, and the more the scavengers become tired and bored of your coercion. The kindness and consideration you show towards them won’t make them love you anymore, in fact, just the opposite. They will see you as desperate and needy, currying favours whilst their glorified sense of entitlement wildly escalates out of control. You can persuade someone to look at your face, but you can’t make them to see the beauty therein.

By being a people pleaser, you are not doing yourself a good turn. Instead, you are attracting cold vibrations from the selfish narcissistic types. While it could be easy to fall into that kind of worrisome space, its unnecessary and unwise because there are no guarantees nor rewards for your trouble. Never try to impress a loser because if a person is not happy about their present circumstances, it’s highly unlikely that they will be happy about the things happening in anyone else’s life or appreciate the help and friendship they are offered. Save your time, money and energy running around after the undeserving ones and put more thought into loving and nurturing yourself. A true hero has no need to impress anyone, and it’s mainly all the empty vessels that make the most noise, rattling along, disturbing the peace.

Be neither a critic nor a resister. Self-loathing is self-imprisonment. Self-forgiveness is self-liberation. You have the right to suppress, oppress or depress yourself at will. You also have the right to impress yourself by being happy and at peace with your surroundings and inner soul. Only someone who isn’t a fool stands a chance of not being bothered by being deemed a fool by another fool. There is no point in showing off if no one is listening, and who cares that much anyway?

If outside validation is your only source of nourishment, you will be hungry for the rest of your life.

Love and light,
Linda and the Lulas xxx